Save the Teens

Funny how I forgot that maybe teens might be come to this website seeking advice, too. So here you go -

To help you with your parents (I know, they're a pain but you do love them and you know it!)

• When your parents are giving you their advice or reasons why you can't do something, stay calm and listen to them until they finish. Then you can tell them why you disagree. Have good reasons to support your position of course!
• If your parent denies your request, don't ask "Why?" Instead ask "What can I do to get xxx ?(the freedom, privilege, whatever it is you're asking for).
• When your parents get angry, don't get angry back. Lots of times, they are not truly angry at you, but rather their job, the price of groceries, etc. Just get out of their way and give them space.
• When discussing your complaints, opinions, or requests, do not act like a know-it-all. Do not raise your voice; instead, discuss the matter in a normal tone. If you stay calm and mature, they may listen to what you have to say.
• If you have trouble talking to your parents, write a note instead. Put it on their pillow. Parents are pushovers for notes like this and will probably keep them forever.
• Talk to your mom or dad alone occasionally. Tell them that you'd like for the just the two of you to go for a walk, out to eat, or maybe a movie. They may cry or hug you - just go with it.
• Spend some time in the same room with your parents. Sit down and talk to them about school, your friends, or something that interests you. At first they may think you are up to something or on some drug but they will get over that and will love the new you!
• As a general rule, people don't do favors for others who argue or are uncooperative. Therefore, if you act this way with your parents, then they may not do any favors for you. Try to cooperate and minimize conflict, because this will work in your favor.
• Be patient with your parents. Remember, they are going through a rough time in their lives and trying to grow up, too. Help them to do it smoothly with love and cooperation. Someday they will thank you.
(From Talk of Your Towne, January 2012 "Helpful Hints")
 
Proof that parents do keep notes :)

A gift tag that my son wrote - I'll cherish this forever.

If you live in Wake Forest or North Raleigh or anywhere near Wake Forest, you are invited to attend a support group if you've lost someone important to you. They could have died from suicide, a car accident, a drug overdose or natural causes. Could be a friend, parent, sister or brother - anyone whose death has you feeling unsettled.

A support group allows you to understand what you're feeling and that you're not alone in your grief. Everyone struggles with grief but it is harder on teenagers. Come try out a meeting and find out if you do feel better afterward.

All information shared in meetings is confidential and not shared with anyone!

Contact Carolyn for more info at carolyn@theshoregriefcenter.org